Have you noticed children who don’t smile much, are always throwing tantrums, exhibit a very egoistic behavior, and are not friendly towards others and their mothers mostly have raised eyebrows and look helpless?
Well my biggest fear as a parent is this.
“Will my child turn into a brat?”
I have seen so many babies in my life and lived closely with them. And now that I am a mother I feel so complete and happy, I have my very own children to play and laugh with.
But as days pass by I realize that playing and laughing is not all I must do with Kabir, he’s growing up, and he’s such a chatter box, he’s mimicking and is making choices, his personality is developing, I have fears and concerns now, and the biggest fear is; Will he become a spoiled brat?
Spoiled children tend to become an embarrassment for parents. But there’s more to worry, than the embarrassment braty kids face huge problems in the present and also later in life.
Parents avoid social gatherings, because for sure the boy who pulled the girls hair or who kept screaming like crazy was undoubtedly theirs. This boy is a mischief; people talk about him and criticize his parents.
Who to Blame
Now that I am an adult and a mother too I understand the spoiled child very well.
Of course the way people discuss this child is not right.
Most of them blame the mothers, very few blame the father and some even say this child was born like this.
DNA
Of course there is an enormous amount of information encoded in our DNA but not all of it is expressed. Some genes are dominant and some are recessive.
But environment, parenting skills, country, culture, food all of it makes a huge difference to the way a person behaves.
Mother
I don’t totally disagree with the people who blame the mother.(I will have to write many other blogs on a mothers role as a parent)
Smart, confident, responsible mums will always find a way to tackle a situation and find the solution.
Father’s Role
Children learn much from mothers but are keen observers of fathers. So the father holds a very strong influence on children. Children look up to their daddy’s.
The atmosphere created by fathers really affects children in a strong way. If fathers are not vigilant or do not actively participate in the parenting process children often stray from the correct path.
Parents, parents, parents
Children are copycats and who do they copy the most? Of course parents.
Because they are the first people a child ever connects with and remains close for a very long time.
The way parents behave and interact with others, what are their priorities and people they admire, children notice every little detail, even those which adults overlook.
Playing the blame game is easy, but why be so late, till we have nothing to do and just blame others or feel regret.
Ignorance is bliss; yes it is but not every time.
Parents beware you must nip in the bud before it’s too late, I know I sound too dramatized but yes its true you can’t ignore your child the first time he bites or screams for no reasons, you can’t let him sit in a corner with a sluggish face when the other children are playing together.
Teach your child to be nice and friendly, smile and laugh with him, make him the better person, and let him be a nicer you.
In the end we all want happy, confident and healthy children.
